I guess so, it's a lot more physical with them, in that sense. [If you don't prepare a girl or take care with it then that results in the dreaded not-at-all-standard bleeding, which is scary.]

But the first time is ... Heavy. It's like having a bunch of energy and not knowing where to direct it, you can feel infinite and small at once, aware of the opposing nature but completely helpless to it all the same. And before you figure out how it's supposed to work those feelings can be terrifying.

[This is completely embarrassing but maybe it'll help to admit it:] I mean, I didn't - for the whole first eight months after I didn't even, y'know, finish. That feeling was scary, and I didn't want to experience something that would make me feel even more out of control than I already did, and was.

[This is a long, meandering tale, sorry Krieg.] I think that's something men can feel too. Maybe not in the exact same way, but similarly enough.

[The real kicker here, the thing she hopes he'll realize without her saying so, is that now she's a pretty sexually adventurous and free person, but even Nariko for all of her charm and slick moves was once a very embarrassed, shy stick of a girl. It was a bumpy and unsettling process - the sexual freedom was somewhat earned, in that sense.]